Shane was in making himself a coffee when I met a boat coming the other way. The driver asked if I had any help. I wondered why he was asking. Then he explained that the next lock had a gate that needed three people to open it. I said there were two of us and a boat behind, so we should be okay. Shane leapt out to do the lock and I went in the far side and he opened the other gate to make it clear that we were inviting the boat behind to share. The driver waved to show he was coming. He came in then started to climb out and we realised he was a lone boater which was probably why he hadn’t caught up so quickly as I had expected after leaving the previous lock, as he would have had to close up the lock behind him. A dog appeared and I asked if it was a good driver and he said, “are you?”. We had noticed his boat the night before as it had interesting painting on it and holders for windlasses on the side of the boat so I spoke to him about the holders, that they looked handy and we had wondered about whether they were always kept in the far side from the tow path. He said he took them in at night as he had heard of someone having their bike stolen from the water side. Some lone boaters are quite reserved people who clearly like the life alone. This chap was chatty and jokey. As usual we talked about where we might be heading and he said he was meeting someone for coffee in the nearby town but wasn’t sure where they would go as he didn’t know the place and asked about mooring spots. He got out to help with gates as the boats were nearly at the top and was chatting about having had a widebeam before, “but then my wife died of COVID on New Year’s Day”. We both said how awful that must have been for him and he said she had told him to continue travelling like they had planned so he was doing it without her. Then he helped Shane open the gate and I applauded as they managed with only two. He got back on and I said I hoped he enjoyed his coffee and it was good to have events to help plan your travel, but he reply was that he was actually dreading it, as it was an old school friend of his wife’s and he didn’t think he was ready for it. I agreed all the first times would be hard, as he drove off out, but what did I know, I have never lost my partner. Shane closed the gate and got back on. We both were struck at how he had opened up with us and Shane wondered if he had unwittingly brought emotions to the surface by wearing his T shirt saying: